I'm thinking that my brain likes "Even on a bad day, I can do X" better than "I can do X and Y and Z unless I have a bad day"
It definitely works much better for me! The other thing it lets me do is sensibly redirect my energies: if I can get through my "I get paid for this and other people depend on me" job, but it uses up all my spoons . . . . well, it uses up all my spoons (one of the "bonus" things I would do would be to make meals ahead of time, so that on days where work did eat up my whole brain, I could come home and throw soup or stew in the microwave and get on with it). I'm not committed, either in my head or in anyone else's, to doing more than I can.
It helps me to prioritize.
I don't think it's ableist - I mean, if you think about it, it's just readjusting the standard scale for one's own particular circumstances. That tends to strike me more as common sense, but then, I am Pragmatic Girl[tm].
Re: Thank you!
It definitely works much better for me! The other thing it lets me do is sensibly redirect my energies: if I can get through my "I get paid for this and other people depend on me" job, but it uses up all my spoons . . . . well, it uses up all my spoons (one of the "bonus" things I would do would be to make meals ahead of time, so that on days where work did eat up my whole brain, I could come home and throw soup or stew in the microwave and get on with it). I'm not committed, either in my head or in anyone else's, to doing more than I can.
It helps me to prioritize.
I don't think it's ableist - I mean, if you think about it, it's just readjusting the standard scale for one's own particular circumstances. That tends to strike me more as common sense, but then, I am Pragmatic Girl[tm].